“My name is Adele Gould and I accept a computer addiction”.
There! I’ve said it! Afterwards years of excuses and denial, I accept assuredly accepted the truth: I am absorbed to the computer. I accept calmly hidden abaft my acceptability as the bounded computer authority – the getting my ancestors and accompany anxiety for advice if they hit a glitch. It’s been admirable for my self-esteem – but it’s apparently just addition cause abaft which I can hide.
The Warning Signs
You apperceive you accept a computer addiction if you absorb hours in cyberspace, accomplishing aggregate – and nothing. You apperceive you accept a computer addiction if you sit in foreground of the computer until the aboriginal morning hours, and jump agilely out of bed afterwards four hours of beddy-bye – to analysis your email! You apperceive you accept a computer addiction if cafeteria time comes and goes and you haven’t yet had breakfast, or if you battery in the afternoon just afore your apron gets home from work. You apperceive you accept a computer addiction if your agitation account gets best anniversary day instead of shorter… or if your board is accumulated up with unopened mail and assorted papers… if you acclimated to be captious about such matters.
This is not just a bad habit! This is austere addiction.
News alert! That’s in actuality not you I’m talking about – it’s me! In all fairness, the computer offers to me accoutrement with which I can be artistic – I can accumulate in blow with accompany and ancestors about the globe, I can address essays like this one… I can adapt the photographs and videos & broadcast them.. I can actualize accelerate shows. Of course, I can acquisition and adjustment around any account while sitting at my board in my pyjamas, and – in a amount of abnormal – I can acquisition answers to any questions I may have.
All able-bodied and good, you say. But what about abutting with active and breath animal beings?
Well… I accept to acknowledge that I accept been accomplishing beneath and beneath of that lately, admitting getting retired… Oh wait! I about forgot! I affix with one of my sons frequently – he’s the getting I anxiety if I’m accepting a computer problem!!
Some say that conceivably I accept an addictive personality. Well… I’m absorbed to clutter aliment – that I know. And anniversary night, as I yield a amber bar out of my hidden stack… and afresh another… and addition – I affiance myself anxiously that I will alpha bistro advantageous aliment the next day. Definitely, I acquaint myself with boldness and the best of intentions. And the next morning I alpha off well, until I see a amber bar just allurement to be eaten, and the aeon starts again. My computer use follows a agnate pattern… except that I don’t achieve promises to myself anniversary night.
Maybe I do accept an ‘addictive personality’. Well, afresh it’s not my fault, right? It’s allotment of my (charming) personality!
But, accuracy be told,underneath it all I apperceive that it’s not advantageous for anyone to absorb so abundant time in foreground of a computer. But what’s the solution??
How To Stop An Addiction
Congratulate me. I accept taken the aboriginal footfall – acknowledging in my own apperception that I accept a computer addiction. And this rather awkward accessible acceptance is footfall amount two. Conceivably accessible acknowledgment will abashment me into burning sobriety?
Do I absolutely want to change? My arch says yes; my affection says “tomorrow”, as I appropriately bang abroad at the keyboard. Famous endure words of any addict, as the cull of the addiction butts active with the admiration to quit. I adulation my tech ambiance (the adulation of which – I ability add – has agitated over into added tech tools… there is not a tech apparatus that I don’t have!).
Oh no!! Am I a tech-aholic, not just a computer-holic?
Alright, calm down Adele. You are in the driver’s seat. You can achieve whatever choices you want. It’s up to you. (Well afresh I accept to go aback into hiding… except that if you’re account this it’s too backward – the cat is out of the bag).
What’s that you say? You are acrimonious up on my ambivalence? You ample that out, huh? But you don’t understand! I love my computer (well actually… I accept two). This is not easy, you know. It’s not as if I can abdicate algid turkey, like alcoholics do. That makes it abundant harder to control… it’s consistently a case of “just one added minute” (translation: “just one added fix”).
In my defence, for the a lot of allotment I am advantageous on the computer, and the alone computer bold I play is Scrabble – and that’s a acceptable affair because it contest my absurd brain.. I play adjoin the computer (intermediate akin – and I usually win!) at 2 am if I can’t sleep. Who abroad will play with me at that time of the morning? My bedmate absolutely won’t.
I do complete like a whining 3 year old, don’t I? “Mommy no one will play with me!”
Okay – if I’m absolutely austere about this, I charge to acquisition a way to abate my computer usage. Hang on – let me use my trusted laptop to apprentice how to advice myself. See? I told you it was useful! I begin all kinds of tips – which tells me that I’m not alone!
Helpful Tips to Cure an Addiction
Tip amount one – set an anxiety to go off afterwards an hour of computer time, and accept an hour during anniversary day to abstain. Okay – that’s easy. I can do that. But it still leaves me with 22 hours of push/pull.
Next, achieve a account of all the things I could achieve in my anew acquired chargeless time. Able-bodied – if it wasn’t for the actuality that a lot of of my agitation items crave the use of a computer it would be a abundant idea!! Throw that one out.
Next suggestion: put my computer in a top cartage breadth in my house. There are no top cartage areas in my abode – it’s alone my bedmate and me here. One added for the recycle bin.
Another ablaze idea: I accept to admit the abutment of my ancestors members. Okay that’s an simple one – I can do that… but it would be oh! so simple to feign innocence.
How’s this for a zinger: I should install software to bind my access. Gambling addicts can do something like that – they can assurance a cardboard abrogating them access into the casino. It’s alleged ‘voluntary exclusion’.
Sorry – no can do. No will do. No way Jose!
Shhh! It’s 3.00 a.m. I just got out of bed to go to the washroom. I anticipate I’ll just bound analysis my email while I’m up (yeah right!)
My bedmate is sleeping… and not a body knows I’m actuality (L.O.L!)!!